Best Way to Include Child in Wedding Ceremony
I was surfing the web earlier and found this question from one of the Yahoo! readers:
She’s getting married in 3 weeks and wants to include her 4 year old son in the ceremony.
If you’re in the same situation and you want to include your child from a previous relationship into the wedding ceremony then you may find these suggestions from the Yahoo! readers helpful:
- Make the child as page boy or ring bearer
- Include a ‘family commitment’ section into the ceremony. This can be done through talking to the wedding celebrant (the one who will officiate your wedding). Quite cool.
- Purchase a little ring for your son nothing to expensive, but a nice one. Then have the Husband put the rings on you and say his part. Then you, your husband, and your son can come up with a vow aka promise then give him (child) a ring on his finger. Vows were something like I will protect you and provide for you (from the parents) and I will obey you and respect you (from the kids).
- Her son stood next to the groom, dressed exactly like him.
They wrote their own vows and then wrote vows to her son.
She read hers to her son and then the groom read his.
He got down on his knees to be eye level with him and told him that he promised to be the best daddy in the world and to always make him proud of him, to protect him, cherish him., and just all sorts of words from the heart. Then he ended by telling the little guy how much he loved his mommy, but mostly how much he loved him and how proud he was to become his daddy. Then he brought out a ring and asked the son…..will you be my son for the rest of our lives? The little guy started bawling and so did everyone else in the church.They gave him a thin wedding band. Not expensive because of him growing. There is nothing wrong with your son wanting a ring. Call your rings “family rings” instead of wedding rings. They had the inside of the ring engraved.
- I perform a lot of weddings with children included. One of the most beautiful ceremonies is called the sand ceremony. The bride has white sand, groom has tan sand, and the children get to pick their own sand. Yes it does become sand art. But the child gets to make a choice, and that is very important. The whole part of the ceremony, is that once the sand is combined the grains can never be separated again, the same for your new family. The best part is, you can display the vase of sand in the living room to look at and remember such a wonderful occassion.
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2 opinions for Best Way to Include Child in Wedding Ceremony
Is it right to include the kids for the second marriage ceremony? : CrashintoLove.com
Nov 18, 2006 at 8:53 pm
[…] I was reading a post from Our One Heart about creative ideas on including kids during a wedding ceremony for stepfamilies, and I must admit, I’m not sure how I feel about this one. It’s not that I’m against including the kids in the ceremony, I guess what struck me about the post was that I saw a glaring omission, and I’m sure the author wasn’t intending her post to go this deep, but it got me thinking about the issue…so I’m going there […]
Wedding Invitations Lady
Dec 2, 2006 at 12:29 pm
One other thing to consider when having chidren participate in a wedding is the child’s normal daily schedule. This is especially important when planning for rehearsals and photograph sessions.
If a younger child normally naps from two to four each afternoon and your wedding is at five, you’re probably not going to get quality photographs at three o’clock Also try to view the child’s reaction to crowds or strangers. While they might preform perfectly at a rehearsal with a few family and friends, it could be a different story in front of a Church full of 200 strangers.
Best wishes!
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