Politics of Bridal Shower Party Planning
Here’s one advice I gathered from reading Queen of the Mayhem’s post on the politics of party planning: Do NOT plan the bridal shower with people you do not know!
Her story is quite hilarious and something that you should all learn from! :-)
I hosted this shower/bachelorette party with 4 other women. Two of the women are coworkers of mine and two of the women I had never laid eyes on in my life. NOTE: Do NOT plan a shower with people you do NOT know!
The premise for this shower was simple enough…lingerie, with a supper……b party to follow. The lady whose home at which we had the party, was in charge of the whole shebang. ( This is what happens when I try to let go of my control freak ways……….SEE! I told you!) We communicated via email and she led my two coworkers and I to believe it was going to be very informal (which IT WAS) and that she only needed us to take care of the games and hostess gift for the b party.
Every shower I have ever given before (OH, and there have been plenty) we have always just kept our receipts and “settled up” at the end of the function. However, since I have always planned with close friends I had an idea of what the final damage was going to be. NOT the case with this shindig!I had a sense there might be a problem when I first arrived at her home. There was NOTHING out……don’t get me wrong………her house was GORGEOUS….and I am not a fan of too many cheesy decorations…but there was NOTHING…girlfriend did not even buy plates…cups…NOTHING! In my neurotic mind I start to think that she has done almost nothing for this shower and, “Will it be nice enough…….will the bride think we are cheap…..blah, blah, blah.” Keep that last statement in mind (not the blah one…the one before that)..because it will actually turn out to be quite ironic!
My anxiety began to rise when she started making statements like, ” I just never know how much to spend on these kind of things….I tend to go overboard…..just look at these flowers…does this look like $50 worth of flowers to you? I am not exaggerating when I tell you this “arrangement” looked like something I could have gotten at Wal-Mart for $10!
One of the other hostesses had stopped to pick up the pasta dish from DeAngelo’s. (Italian restaurant chain) When she called me on my cell afterwards, I could tell she was annoyed. One tray of pasta….big enough to feed 20 people….and free bread……..anyone want to wager a guess as to how much it cost? $150…………one hundred and fifty FREAKING dollars! OMG! Don’t get me wrong, I am all about convenience….and I don’t mind paying a little more for it…..but $150 for chicken, alfredo sauce, and penne pasta! You have to be kidding me!When she started totalling up the shower……the number was ASTRONOMICAL! I was in utter shock. We had: chicken pasta, salad, bread (WHICH WAS FREE), a cake…..which looked like it also came from Wal-Mart…but she said cost $60, and a cream cheese appetizer. THAT WAS IT……….one of the other hostesses made a daiquiri type drink….but otherwise….NOTHING!
This was the most expensive shower I have ever given and it had the least amount of things there! How is that possible?! Needless to say, I was not happy…..but I certainly wasn’t going to make a scene…….I mean, what could I say? ” NO! I don’t believe you spent that much…you big liar….and I am NOT going to pay!”I think the thing that bothers me the most is the bride will never have any idea just how much we spent on her……I know that is not the point…but it seemed as though this shower was very inexpensive….almost cheap, when that could not have been farther from the truth!
It did seem like the bride was having a good time…..and after all, isn’t that what it is all about? However, I did learn a valuable, and expensive lesson……..no more party planning with strangers…it costs way too much!
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