Wedding Cash Gifts - Crass or Practical?
A post in 2005 sparked comments from readers regarding the crassness or practicality of requesting for cash as wedding pressies.
Some of our readers like Sarah was all for it, she wrote:
When my fiance and I got engaged we decided not to register anywhere since we both had 2 complete households when we moved in together. We recently got rid of our 4th toaster and we are not gravy bowl or fine china type of people. What we need is money to make large purchases like the honeymoon and paying off the house. We did the whole word of mouth thing and people still insist on getting us things.
I can not express how frustrating it is when you tell someone specifically that you have everything you need and then they end up getting you another muffin pan and oven mitt (I have 12 so far!). I’d rather not get anything at all because not only do I have to drag these bad gifts 1400 miles but then I have to do something with them! Can we say garage sale? Please don’t waste your money!
Traditionally the reason people gave household gifts to the married couple was because BOTH couples lived with thier parents before they got married and they NEEDED a whole new household. In today’s world, most people no longer live with thier parents past 18, and by the time they are my age they have purchased everything they need and want. There are logical, financial reasons why people ask for money. Please understand that!
However, Kei is of a different opinion, she wrote
i still say no to this practice…
you invite people for your wedding because you want them to celebrate with you…and not because you want them to give you gifts.
it should be the guests’ prerogative in the first place if they would want to give you gifts.
i say, be happy if you get gifts and still be pleased if you don’t…their presence should be good enough gifts for the couple.
What about you? What do you think? What’s your take in this?
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2 opinions for Wedding Cash Gifts - Crass or Practical?
mysti
Aug 26, 2007 at 7:57 am
As I am set to be married in just under two weeks, we’ve had this discussion many times (my fiance and I.) We have planned a wedding in Las Vegas, and expect nothing from anyone as they will incur the travel expenses there and back. For us, we want everyone to have an absolutely fantastic time, relish in the memories and celebrate. Money and/or gifts mean nothing.
Asking for wedding cash gifts
Aug 27, 2007 at 10:48 am
[…] we have talked about the crassness or practicality of asking for wedding cash gifts but please I deplore you, do not do it this way. Subtlety and […]
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