Wedding Proposal: The Man is opposed to the engagement ring
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Ok. This story I picked up out of Arizona Living. The guy is about to propose to her girlfriend but he doesn’t want her to wear the ring.
Weird eh?
Dear Abby: I despise wearing rings, which is a problem because I plan to become engaged. I’m OK with a plain wedding band, but baubles on appendages interfere with useful work and creativity, and they turn me off.
I have an expensive heirloom ring I would gladly give to my lady if she’d keep it in the safe-deposit box where it belongs. I don’t want to insure it or deal with it if she loses it. If I give it to her, she’ll want to wear it. She doesn’t need an ornament to prove she’s special or loved.
What can I use in lieu of an engagement ring? I’d rather give her an annuity or something useful. The thought of a $10,000 ring on a hand that belongs to a productive and intelligent working woman suggests self-indulgent exhibitionism.
I know I’m fighting an uphill battle. I feel the same when I see rings in the workplace and socially. Why not just duct-tape a $1,000 bill to your forehead if you want to call attention to yourself? Any ideas?
- Practical in Denver
Here’s what Abby has to say.
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3 opinions for Wedding Proposal: The Man is opposed to the engagement ring
Josh from tips for life
Sep 1, 2008 at 5:46 am
Well that is one very difficult situation.
Mandy
Sep 2, 2008 at 3:23 am
Our church doesn’t believe in jewelry, so most opt to propose with a relatively nice watch in lieu of a ring. It actually has a function besides just showing off $ and saying “I’m taken.”
That’s my two-cents.
Lindsey
Sep 2, 2008 at 12:07 pm
Wow, that’s a tough decision. Does your bride to be love jewelry because if she does this will be difficult for her not to wear it, she will be too excited not too. Good Luck!
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